Let us start this quarter with a very good entry. It may be very long but it is very sweet.
Young Casanova
By Benjamin Joseph D. Collado III
Inquirer
Last updated 00:38am (Mla time) 07/26/2006
Published on Page C1 of the July 26, 2006 issue of the Philippine Daily
Inquirer
IT'S ABOUT WAKING UP IN THE morning with a bad hangover and being hit by a
very familiar feeling that you went overboard again last night.
It's about a one-night stand with a girl you met at a party, sneaking out
of her room before she wakes, checking your things if something was
missing, looking for her phone and purposely deleting your number from her
phonebook.
It's about meeting a girl at a bar and offering her a ride home. It's
about asking her if she wanted to go someplace private so you can
talk--when both of you are aware that you have a different "talk" in mind.
It's about meeting your ex again after quite some time and noting how much
better she looks now than she did before. It's about pushing the right
buttons for her to give in. And finding yourself in bed with her without
strings attached, all the while being grateful to your friend who told you
it's good not to burn your bridges with your exes.
It's about seeing a girl and finding ways for you to meet her. With pickup
lines being overused, you have a better chance of getting her number by
having a friend go over and ask her politely if he can have his friend
over there introduced to her. It's about texting with her the whole day,
getting to know her, showing that you have a genuine interest in her,
sharing sweet nothings on the phone and forwarding her cheesy quotes that
work almost all the time.
It's about having your friend, your partner-in-crime, the Robin to your
Batman--or whatever you want to call him--validate to her all your pledges
of devotion and loyalty.
It's about perfecting the art of lying. Telling your girlfriend it was
just you and the boys last night--go ask Robin. And not bothering to tell
Robin what to say because he already knows the routine.
It's about keeping your girlfriend happy. Giving her gifts and surprises
so she won't suspect your wayward ways.
It's about not caring if your girlfriend broke up with you because she
caught you cheating. There are other fish in the sea, you say. You're
better off a free man, free to do anything you pleased without worrying
about getting caught.
It's about asking the girl you just met out for a date. Convincing her
that you're for real. Making her forget about the warnings her friends
gave about you.
It's about doing anything so you can bring her home tonight. And if
everything else fails, it's always a good idea to have a plan B.
It's about saying the L word without breaking eye contact. Making her
believe that you really mean it and that you're starting to fall for her.
That's plan B.
It's about thinking of ways to break up with her if she starts to get
clingy. Thinking of the standard breakup lines and wondering if she'll buy
it.
It's about rushing to your friend's girlfriend with a shoulder to cry on.
Telling her that everything's gonna work out fine. Comforting her one
minute, making out the next.
It's about going out with your friends and partying all night. Drinking
till dawn and playing around with girls.
It's about waking up in the morning with a bad case of hangover and a very
familiar feeling that you went overboard again last night.
Deja vu.
Ugly cycle
It really is an ugly cycle. After years of a life like this, you begin to
ask yourself if there is more to life than drinking all night and finding
someone to hook up with. And in the morning when you wake up, no matter
how much you soap yourself, you still have this uneasy feeling that you're
still dirty.
Your friend has found a girl that he's serious about. When you go out with
your friends, you find him taking a raincheck because he has to spend time
with his girl. You and your friends wonder what has gotten into him. You
even wonder if he's lost his mind. How can he even think about trading
this kind of life? There's nothing better than a bachelor's life.
It's all fun and games the first few years. But after a while, you look at
yourself in the mirror and find the traces of abuse you did to yourself.
And if you don't change your ways, you fear that maybe someday you'll find
yourself alone and lonely.
And after all the years of booze and girls, you can finally sum up your
life in one word--empty.
Maybe it's not good to spend your life that way. Maybe your friend hasn't
lost his mind, after all.
What you need is to find someone who can make you look forward to another
day. Someone who, when you think about her, never fails to put a smile on
your face.
Someone who makes you want to be a better man--to steal a line from pareng
Jack Nicholson.
Someone who fills that emptiness in you, making you complete.
Before, when you used to wake up in the morning and find somebody in your
arms, your first thought was how you could get rid of her without hurting
her feelings. But now, what you need is a girl who makes you want to think
of reasons and ways to let her stay in your arms.
Because when she's right there beside you, it is as if everything's okay.
That nothing else matters but you and her.
You need somebody who makes you miss her so much that you buy a bottle of
her perfume and spray it on your pillows so, when you go to bed at night,
you can hug the pillow with her scent on it and wish that it was really
her you were hugging.
You need somebody who makes your heart skip a beat when she smiles at you.
Who makes you feel so comfortable and safe that you pour out your heart to
her, unburdening secrets that you've kept for a long time. And having her
tell you that it's okay, you have a new slate now, that you can leave
everything where it belongs, in the past, and concentrate on what lies
ahead of you.
You need someone who makes you listen more to love songs on the radio.
Someone whom you pray for at night before you sleep. Someone you wish
you'd dream about, for even while you sleep, you still want to be with
her.
Someone whom you can finally look in the eye, without all the guilt and
deceit, and tell her you love her. And you get this mushy feeling inside
that tells you it's true. You want to shout over the rooftops, you love
her, and she loves you! There's no better feeling in the world.
I have found my someone. I have found my all. I've been wanting to ask
this for a long time now. And I think there's no better timing than now.
So here I am, down on one knee, asking you, my someone. Will you marry me?
My sister sent me this e-mail and yes it was said that it is from a newspaper. Yes, I told you it is very good and very sweet. I never knew what the punch line was until I read it of course. I thought that it was only about how to treat your special someone but no, it is for his special someone. While reading this, it made me realize that guys should be like this and I am sure every girl would agree with me. I fell in love while reading this e-mail. This kind of e-mail makes me even more believe in ever afters, happy endings and true love. The shocking part there was it came from a Filipino which made me more proud of being one. Usually, I get interested in stories like this if it would come from other countries and it would usually get me into it. When it comes to Filipino stories I get sick of it and I would really hate it. After this I really fell in love with it. How he gave the readers a great look on how girls wanted to be treated and loved. As for girls like us, it made me realize how guys can be changed because of girls, how guys do anything to make the girl fall for them and how guys cannot live without us. Right now, I am very sure that you are nodding your heads well, it is true right? Guys can never live without us, enough of that. Let us cut this entry and move on to the next.
